Self-Care Saturday: Life Giving Rest

Women's Counseling + Self-Care | Nashville

Earlier this week I found myself in a conversation with friends about how regular times of rest improves performance at work. I enjoyed hearing how other people in my life cultivate these times on a regular basis. Each friend noted a particular fruit in their career because they made resting a priority. “Rest” in this conversation went beyond mere sleep, although that is a much-needed practice our world. Instead, when I think of rest I think of all of the things in my life that help me feel more alive. What in my life helps me to find nourishment on a deep, soul level? I encourage you to make a list of those things and put them into practice. In the meantime, here are two options to cultivate rest and nourish you on a deeper level.  

Practicing Yoga

Yoga is a practice that slows the mind and body by combining physical poses and meditation. This week I listened to an interview with Bessel van der Kolk discussing how yoga reconnects people impacted by trauma back to their bodies. He stated, “Yoga is the way to befriend your own body. Learning how to breathe calmly and move calmly is very important for them.” Even if you never experienced trauma in your life a growing trend for women is learning to connect with their bodies in healthy, restorative ways. Yoga can give you rest because it nourishes your whole body. For those looking for a free introduction to yoga then check out Yoga with Adriene online. (You always need to check with your doctor before beginning a fitness program). 

Saying "No"

Each day holds opportunities to say “yes” or “no” to aspects of our lives. Would you like to teach a Sunday school class this quarter? Can you coach our soccer team this year? Can you lead the business meetings in March? The questions never seem to stop, don’t they? Often our decisions are based in guilt and obligation. Rarely do we ask, “Is this the best way to spend my time?” One reason we do not ask this question is because we never take the time to figure out what we really want in life. If you decide that you want to be more connected to your kid, then take on the soccer coach adventure. If moving up in your company is not a priority, then do not force yourself to lead the next set of meetings.  For the next month, as a self-care experiment, take some time to figure out what is most important for you in the next year. In fact, take the month off from saying “yes” to anything new so that you can reflect on what you want from this year. Write down your goals and use those to help you say “yes” and “no.” Saying no can give you rest because it helps you to learn your limits and invest in the most important things. 

I hope this helps you create space for live giving rest. If you are still feeling stuck with reaching your goals for this year or befriending your body, feel free to call me at (615) 979-4168 for a free 15-minute phone consultation. I’d be happy to hear about what is happening and help direct you to the right person. If you are looking for help with cultivating self-care practices, you can read more about how I can help here every Saturday on the blog.

 

Self-Care Saturday: Three Steps to Begin Caring for Yourself

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Self-care matters. If you want to know why, then make sure you check out my post from last week.  Today, I want to share three more ideas to add to your “taking care of yourself” toolbox.  

1. Start a gratitude journal. 

Buy a new journal and write in it (or use the one you bought and never opened). Every night before bed write 3 things for which you are grateful. Adding gratitude into your sleep routine helps you to enter rest with positives in your mind. Yes, there may be days when you cannot muster three life-giving areas of your life. But even finding one part of your life that you are grateful for helps shift you towards more positive thinking.  Check out some of the science behind keeping a gratitude journal. 

2. Schedule time to worry.

You wake up in the middle of the night and your mind starts to race. You think, “Did I take the trash out? Is my office door locked? Will Olivia Pope choose Fitz after all?” Your mind races through work stressors, relationship issues, and financial struggles. So what should you do with all these midnight distractions? Strange as it may sound you can schedule a time to worry. Slow your thoughts by thinking, “I will worry about this at 11:00 am tomorrow.” Pick a time that works for you to worry. In fact, write it in your calendar and reschedule it. You can choose to make your midnight worries into tomorrow's middle of the day worries so you can go back to sleep. 

3. Get outside.

Get outside now! Spring is coming so go for a walk, go for a run, plan a picnic lunch, or read in a hammock. The sun is waiting for you. In fact, one way to enjoy the sun while you are outside is this exercise.  Start by paying attention to the sun on your skin. Pay attention to the way the warmth of the sun starts at your head and moves all the way down to your feet. Notice how the light feels on your nose, mouth, hands, and legs. How do you feel after you scanned your body? You can answer that question in your gratitude journal! 

If you are still feeling stuck, feel free to call me at 615-979-4168 for a free 15-minute phone consultation.